The essential ingredients in a relationship are those that allow you to build a healthy and strong bond. We bring you 5 of them!
Have you ever wondered what the essential ingredients in a relationship are? What is necessary for a relationship to be healthy and also work?
It is clear that each couple is different and that not all of us need the same thing. However, we find in psychology some generic ideas that should apply to all those relationships that seek to become healthy relationships, such as mutual respect.
We bring you 5 essential ingredients in a relationship that have to do with communication, trust, humor, respect, and, above all, love. After reading them, we encourage you to answer the following: would you add any more to the list?
Look into each other’s eyes.
And it is that an act as daily and apparently simple as looking into each other’s eyes constitutes one of the essential ingredients in a relationship. Why? Because when two people look directly into each other’s eyes, they can connect. In other words, connect on another level, on a more emotional level.Read:What are the differences between attraction, infatuation, and love?
That phrase already says it, “when looks speak, words are silent.” Look yourself in the eyes of your partner, and perhaps you see how, despite everything, the chemistry is still there. Concerning the mentioned above, Michael Ellsberg, author of (The Power of Eye Contact),
affirms that when you make eye contact with another person in a certain way, you offer that person a glimpse of your emotional world.
Laughing together, like looking each other in the eye, connects people a lot, strengthens the bond, and promotes personal trust. When we laugh, we enjoy, we feel pleasure, and we precisely experience that pleasure from the release of endorphins and other substances in our brain. What about the things that make us enjoy? That we want to experience them again. And what better than to repeat happy moments with our partner?
A curious fact, a study by a team of researchers from the Faculty of Medicine at Stanford University suggests that the sense of humor is an attractive trait. The study found that women showed more significant activity than men in the brain regions involved with the reward while reacting to a joke. Also, the study concludes that women have evolved to appreciate humor, while men have evolved to produce it.Read:How to avoid ridiculous arguments in the relationship
Respect is another of the essential ingredients in a relationship. Respect implies listening to the opinion of the other even if we do not share it, not insulting, speaking well, considering the other, accepting their defects, being honest. That is, the act of respect involves a large number of actions and attitudes, and all of them are related to a strengthening of the bond and greater trust between the couple.
Also, when a couple disrespects each other, they are more likely to do it again in the future, which can generate very toxic dynamics within the relationship.
“To get along, we don’t need the same ideas. We need the same respect”.
Spend time together
Spending time with a person is one of the most significant tests of love you can offer someone. Try to find time to call your partner. Talking for a couple becomes crucial because spending time together means more opportunities to meet and create memories shared.Read:My partner lies to me; what can I do?
Thus, with this ingredient, we mean not so much to spend time physically together (which, if possible, better than better), but rather spend time with the other, in general. Also, spending time with your partner allows you, in addition to those mentioned above, to put an end to possible conflicts if they exist.
Listen to the other.
Concerning a point already mentioned (that of respect), we also propose another essential ingredient in a relationship: active listening. Listening to your partner actively implies showing interest in what he explains, asking him, showing attention, debating, etc.
It is an act of love and respect for the other, also, that we all like to be heard, right? And we can always learn something from each other through active listening. On the other hand, it is one more way to improve communication and trust between them.
“Knowing how to listen implies having the ability to stop hearing our own words.”
Final reflection on love and relationships
Healthy or healthy relationships are those in which there are trust, sincerity, and mutual respect, as well as love. Each couple must find their formula to enjoy the relationship while learning with (and from) the other without interfering with their personal freedom.
The ideas that we have brought you are just some examples; however, we could find more: but anyway, you must practice positive and transparent communication, be honest, look for moments of tranquility and intimacy. The ingredients above explained some of the most necessary things to build a relationship in which to enjoy and be yourself.
Let’s not forget that love is the basis of relationships. These must also be built little by little and with both members’ genuine interest (they are not made alone).
“Fall in love with someone who makes you feel that love is beautiful, not difficult.”